Jana's Mom

[Squad 51]

Sorry to hear that about your mother. I know how hard this is, so tough to decide what to do next. I've been in that position, and you don't know what to do, especially with sick family members.

I hope that the trachea cut helps her breathing again and that she slowly and steadily recovers. My aunt suggested that I should tak her with me to Jena, in a nursing home. My stress level would sink and I could visit her all the time. Just hope she doesn't give up. Spoke to her all the time. Again cross your fingers!

[Melinda Halliwell]

Whatever happens and how you decide things I hope it goes well Jana.

[Dark Avenger]

Feb 23, 2020 0:35:32 GMT -5 Tim said:

Putting the lines underground is better.  Less vulnerable to storms that way.

Exactly.

Feb 24, 2020 5:22:21 GMT -5 Squad 51 said:

Sorry to hear that about your mother. I know how hard this is, so tough to decide what to do next. I've been in that position, and you don't know what to do, especially with sick family members.

I hope that the trachea cut helps her breathing again and that she slowly and steadily recovers. My aunt suggested that I should tak her with me to Jena, in a nursing home. My stress level would sink and I could visit her all the time. Just hope she doesn't give up. Spoke to her all the time. Again cross your fingers!

Keeping fingers crossed and praying for the best.

[Tim]

Yeah, Jana, I hope things get better.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

[Squad 51]

Thanks. Will phone tomorrow again how her situation is at the moment. On Friday I'm back at the hospital anyway.

[Tim]

Okay, we'll wait for the news.

[Squad 51]

The OP went well and so did my test, by the way. I'll be back on Friday in the hospital and also at my PC. So far there's no news, though I'd need a break with all this driving around. *sighs*

[Tim]

Keep us posted when you can.

[Squad 51]

Bad news on my front, very bad. My mom got a brain damage and she still doesn't breathe alone. Now I have to make the decision whether the machines should keep her alive or shut down. I feel so helpless. She's my Mom and then I'm totally alone. I really don't know what to do. The doctors need a decision of mine by Sunday at least.

[ladyfiaran22]

I’ve never been in this position before, but this is horrible news. This is a decision no one ought to be in a position to make, but you must try to make the best decision for your mother. I’m sorry for your mother and I will pray that you can make the right decision and for a miracle 😪

[Tim]

Feb 28, 2020 15:57:41 GMT -5 Squad 51 said:

Bad news on my front, very bad. My mom got a brain damage and she still doesn't breathe alone. Now I have to make the decision whether the machines should keep her alive or shut down. I feel so helpless. She's my Mom and then I'm totally alone. I really don't know what to do. The doctors need a decision of mine by Sunday at least.

What a horrible situation.

If there is no chance for recovery, if she is brain dead, they, for all intents and purposes, she's already gone.  Keeping the machines going would only prolong her existence (existence, not life). 

I wish I had more comforting words, but, from what you've told us, there's no hope.  I'm not going to sugar coat this, it's gonna hurt like hell.  However, you have to consider what's in her best interest. 

[Squad 51]

I know that and it's a tough decision to make. She isn't brain dead yet. Today she wanted to tell me something but no words came out. She recognized my voice and all, but I just feel helpless. I still have to tell this her older sister.

[Melinda Halliwell]

I can't imagine what you're going through and honestly wouldn't know what to do in that situation if that was my mum but we all know you have to think about what'd be best for your mum in the long run.

It's a shame you haven't got anyone to help you with any decisions unless your mum's sister does obviously.

Whatever happens, we'll be here if you need to talk.

[Jean]

I'm so sorry for what is happening to you. We're all here for you if you need to talk, vent or express anything.

Sending my prayers to you and your family.

[Squad 51]

Thanks, guys. I made the decision now that there should be no recovery when her heart doesn't want anymore. I don't want her to suffer and neither do I. It was the right thing to do -in her and my best interest.